So this weekend I got a letter from Buckingham Palace, home of the Queen o’ England, inviting me to dinner. For real. This is a big deal for three reasons: 1. The mumma and her mumma (my nan) were both obsessed with royalty so if they knew I was getting hang time at the palace they would be beside themselves. The mumma would be telling me, in no uncertain terms, to cover up my tattoos, take out my piercings and wear a pretty dress. 2. Now, I’m not actively looking for validation, but when you get invited to the palace by HRH, you cannot help but do a happy dance in satisfaction that the work you do is making a difference. I'm totally happy dancing. 3. I get to go to Buckingham Palace. Seriously? What’s not to love about that? Not one to believe in coincidences, I prefer cosmic winks and synchronicities, it seemed rather apt that the gold trimmed invite arrived a few days after I’d highlighting this quote in my dog-eared, read-a-thousand-times-but-always-find-gold copy of Marianne Williamson’s, A Woman’s Worth…
“A queen is wise. She has earned her serenity, not having had it bestowed on her but having passed her tests. She has suffered and grown more beautiful because of it. She has proved she can hold her kingdom together. She has become its vision. She cares deeply about something bigger than herself. She rules with authentic power.” - Marianne Williamson, A Woman’s Worth
While I may not have a kingdom - or a crown for that matter - I am most deffo Queen o’ my SASSY domain, and what really rang true for me in Marianne’s quote, was ‘she rules with authentic power.’ Oh yeah. I am all about the real, raw, heart-cracked-open truth. But what does that actually mean and how do you apply it to become Queen of your domain? Authentic is a word that’s used a lot by people who really want us to believe they're 'real'. Thing is, you can't persuade people you're real just by telling them, you have to feel it, deep in your belly. Your authentic power is your SHE power. A long forgotten power that resides in your womb, in your cyclic nature and connects you to the badass women who have gone before – priestesses, sorceresses, wise women, queens, warrior-esses – it’s a power that’s within us all and it simply needs to be re-awakened, owned and stepped into. Fully. When I say simply, I don’t mean easy. There are no shortcuts. You have to show up for life’s assignments, face them head on and and pass your tests to release all the BS blocks that are stopping you from being your most badass self. There’s no room for playing small. You have to surrender to a new possibility. A new perception. The newness and total vastness of this may feel a li’l scary, but don’t mistake scary for excitement. Excitement is good. How do you discover it? You need to seek your power within your beautiful, imperfectly messy you-ness rather than looking outside yourself for the answers. When you do, neediness lessens and insecurity weakens.
How do you know when you’ve connected with your SHE Power? You know. When I’m connected and fully Queen o’ my SASSY domain, I breathe slowly, I feel nourished, full up, regardless of what’s going on in my external world, and I exude a gutsy-girl confidence that comes straight from my core, my womb, my belly the kind that simply cannot be manufactured.
Not living my truth, not connecting with my SHE Power, looks a lot like this. I compare myself to others. I try to be something I am not. I’m frantic. I binge on food as a coping mechanism.
Knowing the difference between the two keeps me aware of when I’m not aligned with my SHE power. If I take on a new project, if I meet a new person, it’s my litmus test – how am I breathing, what do I feel? This awareness to our deepest feeling is the key to staying on our truth path. And you’ve got to dig the truth path. How to awaken your powerful SHE power that’s eager to come through you:
Be aware of when you’re out o’ whack with your truth. How do you act, talk, think, and breathe when you’re not in alignment with your truth? Pay close attention to the differences in how you feel.
Know that by paying close attention, shiz will start to change. Seeing things differently is the Kali Ma catalyst for spiritual shifts. These shifts can sometimes be a ‘bit’ uncomfortable – total freakin’ understatement - but that’s a good thing. Remember, we must ‘pass our initiations’ to grow into our SHE power. Every experience/scenario/person you meet is a powerful opportunity for you to strengthen your SHE muscle. Simply repeat the mantra ‘I am willing to know my truth’ and trust that SHE will guide you.
Feel you truth. Allow your truth, your SHE power, to pass through you, guide you, and energise you to experience a newfound self-awareness.
You’ve TOTALLY got this. It’s not always easy, but tuning into your truth awakens your SHE power, and when SHE is awakened, you can fully step into your role as Queen of your domain. And c’mon, who doesn’t want to rock a crown?
I would LOVE to know what your truth feels like. Care to share in the comment box below?