The happy-ever-after of a turned on woman

Last week, I curled into my safe space - it's the sweet spot under the hot viking's left arm where I rest my head on his chest - and as the sun rose, we heart riffed on our happy ever after. What's become SO important to me is that all the life-chasing, goal-setting, money-making mean shit if you're not living the most awesomely wild woman story that makes your heart sigh out loud with happy stuff.

I've spent a lot of this year learning how to be a proper grown-up in the world - some of the time, I've been beating myself with the 'surely I should have had this shit licked by the age o' 33' stick and the other time has been spent kicking out, resisting and throwing hissy fits. Y'see, I crave freedom, yet I want security. I want to be a success (whatever that means), yet I'm an introvert who is most at home under the duvet reading a book and amongst all o' that, what I've worried about most in all this business-building malarky, is losing the essence o' me.

Before SASSYology, I was the SASSY Minx - a tongue-in-cheek, burlesque dancing, sex-toy reviewing, champagne swilling girl about town. I was also the SASSY Sorceress - a magic making, goddess-worshipping, spell weaving, tarot reading gypsy starfire. They are all delicious slices of me, but when I combined them to launch SASSYology.com - the ever-fabulous study of SASSY - Spiritual, Authentic, Sensual, Sensational, YOU - I wobbled. In fact, I'm still wobbling as I try new things, niche, don't niche, fail, work with amazing women, fuck up, get offered incredible opportunities that push me WAY out o' my comfy zone. Am I too business-y? Am I too nich-ey? Thing is, all I REALLY need to remember, and it's the same for you too, is that when those five most magickal o' elements of SASSY align - Spiritual, Authentic, Sensual & Sensational YOU - they come together to create the most awesome super-power.

SHE Power. The most sacred juju o' the fire-starting kind.

SHE Power is your essence. Your divine femininity and it should be fed, turned on and tuned into. That's been my biggest, biggest learning this year, structures and systems are super-important in order to make sure you can be totally o' service to the people you work with, they clear space, create clarity, quieten the funkatron who will always be a Debbie Downer when it comes to your heart riffin' at full beam, but it simply cannot be at the cost of your personality, your heart print.

I am SASSY. I am a beautiful witch. I am a turned on woman. I am a rebel. I am a goddess.

Whatever I create in the world, whether it's a lived-to-the full relationship with my hot viking beau, a new book, a set of tarot cards, a brand new coaching programme for women who want to write their freakin' hearts out (yep, that's totally happening next year and I've never been more excited about a project. EVER.) if you cut it open, at it's core, my personal brand o' SASSY - Magick, divinity, sensuality and rebelliousness - will run through it's centre like a stick o' Brighton rock.  It's my heart print.

Your heart print is your SHE power and it's switched to maxim-o when you fully express yourself. When you know what you want, when you're aligned and turned on. It's divine feminine awesomeness in a YOU-shaped package, and it's the stuff, that when allowed to riff, create and flow, will write the most epic story, paint a glorious picture, start the most kick-ass business, dance a delicious tango, have hot sex, head out on amazing adventures, become the most sexy woman that your partner is proud of and wants to get saucy with in equal measures.

Switch on your SASSY. Turn your SHE power to 'full-on-goddess-girl' mode and do something that's totally YOU. Play air-guitar naked, write a haiku, cast a spell, take a picture every hour for 24 hours, create an altar, chant, dance, sing at the top of your voice, ask your beloved on a winter picnic where you make out like teenagers even if you have a gazillion emails to answer.

What are you waiting for? Go get turned on, then come back and tell me all about it. Yep, I totes want all the dirty deets.

SASSY: The Go-for-it Girl's Guide to becoming the Mistress of Your destiny is available now. If you buy your copy from SASSYology.com they are signed by the author – me! – and come with a SASSY superhero postcard and ‘Kiss My SASS’ pin badge – woop. AND as the festive season is approaching, I can personalise a message, send it directly to the recipient and even wrap it in pretty pink paper for you. I know, I’m like the gift that keeps giving, right? This offer is only available on copies bought direct from SASSYology.com