Can you touch your SHE Spot?

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I had a massive response to how I was feeling about the writing process of Witch last week + while I've shared a li’l bit about the book writing/publishing process of both Code Red + Love Your Lady Landscape in the past, you have literally been sending out a big-ass care-bear stare style demand via the medium of emails + FB messages wanting the REAL how-to-write-a-book dirty deets. I thought about writing the how-to-write-a-book blog post, but the thing is, to REALLY experience the SHE-led process that I personally go through to write a book, you need to be willing to crack your heart wide-open, trust your gut + most importantly, trust SHEin helping you to find your SHE spot - the spot of total runny honey-like truth, that when accessed can provide SHE medicine for both yourself and the world - and well, there are NO five-point plans for THAT. So I figured if you want the good stuff, let’s get straight to the good stuff, let's talk SHEspot. (For a someone who used to be a burlesque performer, I’m seriously rubbish at the tease.)

What is the SHE Spot?

It’s the crack where the light shines in. It feels exquisitely vulnerable and yet divinely delicious. Think of the best orgasm you’ve ever experienced (and if that wasn’t in the last week at least, go pleasure yourself right now) THAT'S the feeling we’re looking to experience when we hit our SHE spot, ‘k? It is our total runny honey-like truth. It's our soul voice. It’s our SHE medicine - the medicine that will provide healing for both ourself and the entire freakin' world. It's this, and it's a million other things in between.

Except we oftentimes ignore our SHE spot, because in order to access that runny honey-like truth that can be found there, it isn’t always pretty. It can be painful, it can evoke feelings that have previously been pushed down deep into the darkness and lurk in our shadows. We're fearful that if we DO touch ourSHE spot, we'll express ourselves in a way that might make us do that snotty-nosed, mascara-running ugly cry. Or we might discover something too bright, too powerful, that fills us up with so much light and love we might implode in on ourself. We get fear-filled. We get shit-scared. Yet, when we touch + pleasure that SHE spot? Magic happens.

In SHE Flow yoga classes, I encourage + guide participants to find their SHE spot in every move. To feel their way into each asana knowing nothing needs to be held, simply trusting their body’s natural rhythm to take them where they need to go.

In SHE mentoring, I work with women to find their SHE spot in their menstrual cycle, to feel into the flow of their monthly cycle, each phase, every day and listen to what their body is telling them and what it is guiding them to do in their business, their career and their life.

Touch your SHE spot + your story will be revealed.

So my big write-a-book-advice would be to know that your capacity to write a book or tell your true-to-you story is directly linked to your willingness to find, crack open, feel into and express the honey-like truth, the SHE medicine that is activated every time you touch, pleasure and honour your SHE spot.

Are you ready to find your SHE spot? Are you being called to share your story? To write a book? For your voice to be heard? 

If you are, I invite you with big open arms + heart to come join me for SHESTORIES (you’ve got 4 days left to sign up) - a 30 day online programme of daily emails + prompts, SHE insight sessions with actress Carrie Anne Moss, Hay House UK Editor, Amy Kiberd + Social Media Queen, Katie Brockhurst, along with rituals, practices + SHE Flow techniques to help you write your freakin' heart (+ guts) out.

To find out more, head over here...

SHE Stories

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The feminine wound, pre-menstrual wobbles + creative impotence

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Yesterday I told my editor that I didn't want to write the Witch book.I told her, 'I'll pay back my advance, I don't want to do it.' Why? I was day 28 of my menstrual cycle (my inner critic works overtime in my pre-menstrual phase) + I felt the fear. A fear that festers in the deep feminine wound. The fear of being seen + heard. The fear of being judged + punished for my beliefs + actions.

So, my editor, Amy Kiberd, who you'll meet + get to chat to if you're joining me for SHE Stories - we start on the 30th October on the dark moon + we'll be in circle for 30 days together, come join us - talked me through it. Through the fear, the wounding + the judgement. This isn't the first time she's had to do it. (I'm guessing it won't be the last either.) She reminded me of a similar conversation we had when Love Your Lady Landscape was just about to go for it's final edit.

The feminine wound is real.

For me, the wound isn't a perceived, societal one, it's real. It's one of the women that have gone before me. My mumma who turned her back on her psychic + seer like powers through fear of being called a witch, my nanna who would never have the word 'witch' spoken, yet it was exactly what she was + the whole neighbourhood knew it. It's one of past life. Yep, this is not my first rodeo sharing women's wisdom. Doing women's work. Of being a witch. In at least one life time, I had my tongue cut from my mouth in front of the women I was talking to. In another, I was the victim of a witch hunt where other women I believed to be kindred, sisters + friends, called me out to the authorities + I was burned. It's one of THIS lifetime. A time where I've been manhandled, smacked, shamed, judged + disrespected by both men AND women.

Yet, I KNOW I'm here to be an advocate for the women who, while they may not have had their tongues sliced, feel that their voices are silenced + censored + not heard. I'm here to show that while modern day witch hunts are real (you only have to look at any trash mag or reality TV show to see women being called out, judged + 'burned' by mainstream + social media) we have to practice being seen, heard + expressing our real. I've said this MANY times,  but do you think if I had a choice, I'd be talking about periods + vaginas? Do you think if I had a choice, I'd keep putting myself out there, over + over again, writing books that aren't easy to market, that talk about SHE + how our womb is a power source, declaring I'm a witch + waking other witches so that others can potentially ridicule, judge + shame me? It's what I've signed up for. And while there are definitely days that I wish I could just not know what I know, lay on a chez lounge, write chick lit + live in the South of France, I wouldn't change it for the world.

I'm telling you this because I want you to know, if you're thinking you want to write a book, or share your story, or speak on stage, or host a circle or a workshop, or create a social media feed that inspires + feels real - and you feel the fear, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I feel it too. Every time I write a book, a blog post, stand on stage, begin an interview. And for some that fear might be perceived + societal, + for others it might be real + experiential, either from past lives, or this lifetime. But here's the deal.

To share your story, your you-nique-to-you medicine, you have to be seen. And heard. And express your real.

It's what I've had to learn every time I say yes to doing a podcast, a TV or radio interview or speaking on a big stage, when what I really wanted to do was say 'no' and stay in my PJs - in order to share our powerful SHE medicine, our magic, our unique-to-us-flavour in the world, we have to be seen. And Heard. And express our real. And for many of us, me included, it doesn't come easy. But if we let it, the fear that it's 'not safe' for us to speak/write/share our story, which ultimately is our medicine to the world, renders our creative powers completely useless. Like an impotent, limp dick. And no one want's that, right? What the world wants + needs, damn it, what I want + need,  is a world where YOU are sharing your medicine, your story + your real.

If you let it, fear can render your creative powers completely useless. Like an impotent limp dick. And no one wants that, right?

So let's do it together. Let's create a safe space for us to practice. Join me for 30 days, dark moon through to new moon, as I encourage you to write your freakin' heart (+ guts) out. To work with the cycles of mumma nature + the cycles of your own body to attune to your creative powers, to save them from fear-induced limp-dickness + use them for good. We'll mud wrestle with our inner critic, we'll see where she shows up, what she's attached to + how we can help her to heal,  we'll get a little messy as we separate what's truth + what's not + I'll invite some incredible women - actress Carrie Ann Moss, Hay House UK editor, Amy Kiberd + social media queen, Katie Brockhurst - who support me in telling my truth + sharing my real to share their insight, advice + wisdom. It's going to be special.

To join SHE Stories, click HERE

Powerful pussies + big hearts

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I've not been sleeping well this week.For countless reasons, but the main one is this, I've recently written a book about how a woman's truth + power lies between her thighs - in her pussy, I'm currently writing a book about the persecution of women. Now, I'm blessed to live in a time where we can remember, reconnect + reclaim. I'm sick to my stomach to live in a time where a man who potentially could be the leader of the 'free world' talks about women + their pussies in such a degrading way + it's written off as 'boy banter.' He is the epitome of, in fact he's the orange-faced poster child of, the patriarchal structure that's being dismantled ever time a woman takes back her power + shouts, 'this pussy bites back, T***p.' Watching this play out would be almost amusing as he, along with others like him, cling desperately to the out-of-date paradigms + belief systems that has fed over-puffed egos for centuries. Except it's not funny. And as the feminine wakes, fully rooted after being pushed underground for the past 3,000+ years by patriarchy, shit WILL get continually unfunny. For a while at least. Such is the nature of transition. That's a LOT of conditioning that has to unravel + come undone, right there. Look, I don't love Hilary. I'm under no illusion she's the 'answer', (far from it) I'm not a US voter. For me this isn't about the election, honestly? Either one in charge seems like a scary + shady prospect to me, I am a woman though, and while I know essentially what follows is a campaign speech for Hilary, (shit lady, you're lucky you've got MO on your team) this speech pretty much sums up the not-okay-ness of T***p + his behaviour + for me at least what truth + power ACTUALLY looks like. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r7e3QKKOp50 There is much still to do, it IS going to get messy + we need to call back + claim our power to do it. Women, it lies between your thighs. Dudes, it's your big beating, caring, respectful warrior hearts. Call back your power, NOW. The world need powerful pussies + big hearts more than ever right now.

Truth telling, story sharing + how to be real

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I'm day 22 of my menstrual cycle + I 'should' be amazing everyone with my ability to stay unruffled in the face of ANY crisis. I should be experiencing 'unshakeable serenity' because progesterone is 'meant' to have me feeling relaxed, calm + centred, but honestly? Right now I'm howling with anger, pain + frustration - for myself + for the world we live in. I'm angry because I'm back in the UK + it's fucking freezing. I'm angry at my phone + it's incessant demands for me to respond to it every fucking five minutes. I'm angry that we have to have International Day of The Girl, but then instantly realise that the bigoted man with the stupid orange tan proves exactly why we need International Day of The Girl.

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This picture is me telling progesterone to  hurry up with its 'supposed' bloody serenity. Now, unless I'd told you, you'd be mistaken for thinking that's EXACTLY what I was experiencing, right? But that's the thing with social media + online story sharing, not everything is as it seems.

I could go deep with this one because there is a LOT o' talk about 'authenticity' on the internet + it makes me mad, but right now it would just turn into a shout-y pre-menstrual rant + NOBODY wants that, so instead I'll offer up an invitation to you. If like me you're over people claiming to be an authority, or so-called experts telling you 'how to be authentic' in life, in business, or on the page + you simply want to show up, without feeling the need to ask for permission or seek approval from others + tell your truth, share your stories + express your real no matter how messy it might first appear, join me this November, as I open up the SHE Stories Circle.

Yep, I know I usually talk about periods + vaginas (A LOT) but every November, I invite women to gather in circle + allow their cyclic nature to be their SHE guide in expressing their voice, their truth + their vision through the written word.

I used to ache for my voice to be heard. I wanted more than anything to be able to fully express myself - the glory, the pain, the wild + the exquisite in-between space - and share my truth from deep down in my heart + gut. But for so long I got the fear. Big crazy-ass fear. Fear so paralysing, I became a writer-for-hire and wrote Justin Bieber annuals. True. Actual. Fact. On paper, and in my every day life, I self-edited, tamed + censored my vulnerable + raw SHE-powered voice so that I was likeable, loveable, acceptable. It was a bullshit existence, because what I know now, that I didn't know then, was that you will never be an in-your-power, totally-of-service badass if you are not sharing your from the heart + guts truth - no matter how messy, imperfect + not-likeable it might appear.

This is why every November, my birthday month, I connect with the cycles of the moon + my menstrual cycle + devote serious love to my writing practice + I'm inviting you to join me.

It's going to be Fierce. Feminine. Devotional.

It's not about being a great writer. There's no end goal. You don't have to show anyone what you've written although you're SO welcome to share. It's about using the daily practice of writing in tune with the cycles of the moon + your menstrual cycle, to unravel your SHE story + express your real.

The content will be dictated by what you bring to the circle. If you have questions about the publishing industry, bring it. If you want to know how to co-collaborate with SHE, ask. If you want to know how to deal with the inner critic, let's chat. If you want to know how to write a proposal, this will be the place to quiz me.

For those who have joined me in previous circles, this time round, I'm also inviting three of my favourite women, actress Carrie Ann Moss, Hay House editor, Amy Kiberd + social media angel Katie Brockhurst to join me in SHE insight Sessions - recorded conversations with sisters who have supported + been my cheerleaders in sharing my truth + my voice, and I'm asking them to provide their insight + wisdom to help inspire, motivate + support you too.

To find out more + to join me in the SHE Stories circle, click HERE

Lilith + calling back your power. Now.

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What a month September has been, eh?!Are you feeling all the feelings? Despite all my best intentions, I've not written a SHE mail all month, I had plans to launch courses + workshops, in fact I had a LOT of plans for a LOT of things + as the month comes to an end, I realise that NONE of them have come to fruition. NONE.

But instead of sharing my offerings with you, instead of sharing the gazillion blog posts + insights I got while on retreat braless up a mountain in Spain, it seems the work for me this month was to be with myself. It's been painful, exhilarating + all-consuming but I teamed up with the goddess Lilith + with her support, I called my power back.

I write about 'calling your power back' in my book, Love Your Lady Landscape so you might be wondering why I'm still having to do it, I'll tell you for why. Calling back our power, whether you've done it in an ancient Goddess temple with me in Malta, whether you've placed your hand on your copy of Love Your Lady Landscape, whether you've created your own ritual, or pulled the SHE Power card over + over from the SASSY SHE oracle, it's not a one-time practice + voila, power is back + installed, womankind have been stripped of their SHE power by the patriarchy + it's a daily freaking practice for all of us to remember, reconnect + most importantly reclaim it.

So why did I call in Lilith? Because Lilith is a badass. She's hypnotic + she's magnetic. She's the goddess of sexual energy, creativity, rebellion + SHE power. She's a symbol of divine matriarchal energy that refuses to be dominated or controlled.

She's the one you need when you want to see where you're being taking advantage of, where you're letting others make decisions for you, where you need to get super clear about what's necessary + what's not + to see all the places where you're not acting from a place of power.

This month has been a tough one for me. Seeing where I'm not taking responsibility for myself + my actions, having to call out people who were taking advantage of me, having to be compassionate to myself for letting it happen, having to be firm in my decisions when people wanted to use guilt + blame to make me feel bad for those decisions, seeing where I've allowed people to tell me what to do about the things I care about + having to act in a way that might mean people won't like me + then having to be okay with that. Oy freakin' vey.

So basically, today this  is a love letter from my heart + womb to yours, to let you know that NO ONE has it figured out. At least not all of the time. Even if they write books about it. (Yes, I'm talking about me.) THIS is SHE business. Trusting SHE, trusting flow (menstrual/lunar/universal), trusting your body wisdom + trusting that EVERYTHING is cyclic. When I finished the shitty first draft of WITCH (the next book), I wanted to go straight into doing 1-to-1s, I wanted to launch three courses, I wanted to do in person events + workshops,  I wanted to be back in the blood + guts of being a woman WITH YOU. But each time I tuned in, I got a super-loud 'woah lady, not yet' - also my website broke, technology failed me (over + over) + my menstrual cycle was super extended as she begins to move my bleed away from the full moon energy she's been residing in during LYLL book launch + the writing WITCH (I'm so grateful for that full beam energy) towards the dark moon, + I trusted it. I continually trust it all. I got still, I got silent (silent meditation is my favourite thing - no frills, no pranayama, simply sit your arse on a meditation cushion, close your eyes + let the nothingness eat your mind over + over + over + over + over + over...) and I got slow + intentional, only doing what needed to be done + trusting that I knew what that was.

Which is why I've got nothing to sell you, nothing  to share with you or tell you about (I mean I have, but apparently not yet) this is simply an invitation, under today's black moon which is linked to the goddess Lilith,  to call back + reclaim your SHE power too.

Sit still, close your eyes + ask Lilith to show you (like she has been for me this month, sometimes more painfully than I'd have liked if I'm honest) where you're not taking responsibility, where you're handing your power over to someone else + ask for what you need in order to really begin to trust your inner authority, your body wisdom, flow + SHE - comment below, or come share with me over at instagram or facebook + declare them to me if you feel you need to be witnessed. I've got you.

Dark moon blessings, witches.

World Contraception Day

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Over on Instagram + Facebook, I'm currently running #sharemycycle - every day from day 1 of my menstrual cycle, through to the next time I bleed, I share my daily experience of what it is to be a menstruating woman.Sometimes I share a SHE Flow Yoga pose, sometimes some spiritual wisdom + other times practical insight as to what our hormones are doing + what impact that has on physically + emotionally. Come on over.

Today because it's  #worldcontraceptionday, I'm talking contraception.  Now, contraception is a subject I'm super passionate about and I talk about it in both books, Love Your Lady Landscape + Code Red. FYI: If you're currently on the pill, I recommend the book Sweetening the Pill: How We Got Hooked On Hormonal Birth Control to EVERYONE too. But so you know, my chosen method is DAYSY. Yep, about six months ago, I started using the Daysy Fertility Monitor. So, six months later, what's the deal? I freakin' love it + at the risk of sounding like an infomercial, I now recommend it to ALL my clients - the ones who are trying for a baby, the ones who are coming off the pill + don't want a baby, basically anyone that wants accurate information about their fertility, because y'know, Daysy is a fertility monitor. It monitors fertility.

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How? It calculates your fertile days using your basal body temperature (BBT) and information about your menstrual cycle. It's different from a regular BBT thermometer because it stores the data for you + sends you a lil morning reminder on your phone to take your temp. You take your temperature by placing Daysy under your tongue before you get out of bed each morning, you tell it when you're bleeding, and then after three months of 'learning', Daysy can give you your fertility status of the day (red=fertile, green=infertile, yellow=learning/fluctuation) Daysy will show you are fertile or not with an accuracy of 99.3%.

So, it's super easy to use - you do it in bed, it couldn't be ANY easier - + unlike other forms of birth control, it has no hormones. There are no objects IN your body - I've had an IUD + the contraceptive implant at different points + my body is still recovering - and it effectively prevents pregnancy/shows you your most fertile days.

Yes it's pricey, but honestly? I could not put ANY cost on something that meant I no longer had to put synthetic hormones in my body. (Also condoms, which is what the Viking + I were using for contraception before Daysy, are super expensive over a year + the Daysy will last a LOT longer than a year!) The pill had me thinking I was crazy, when in fact it was completely disconnecting me from my experience as a woman. The Daysy will completely reconnect you to your cyclic experience, provide you with a no-fuss method of contraception AND super accurate information about your fertility.

To find out more go to: www.eu.daysy.me and for today only, to support + honour World Contraception Day, the AMAZING Daysy team are offering a 20% discount off the full price of a Daysy Fertility Monitor use code: CONTRACEPTION24 at checkout.

Just so you know, full disclosure, I was given a Daysy to review six months ago, but I hope you know by now, that I do not + will not share anything that I don't believe in or wouldn't happily buy myself. I am in LOVE with this prod + if I could buy every woman I know one, I totally would.

SHE power

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A few weeks ago I went to a party.Yes, sometimes it happens. What can I say? I'm a sucker for champagne + salmon on a stick. (a total whole fillet of salmon. On a stick. I had two.) Anyway, I met this guy who said he loved the title of my book Love Your Lady Landscape, and asked 'how are you ever going to follow that up?'  I said 'I'm writing a book called Witch.' He laughed + said: 'Well, that'll do it.' So, yes, I'm writing a book. A book called Witch. And right now, I'm writing about power. The feminine power that we've been taught to be afraid of, that we've been told is unsafe, because an untamed, angry, joyous, unbound woman is a scary proposition to the world, right?

What would being fully in your power feel like? What would it feel like to go ALL THE WAY in one direction? What would it feel to disappoint or upset people in your life for making a choice that feels right + powerful for you? What are the repercussions of this power, and are we willing to take the risk?

I don't have the answers, I'm just riffing on these questions. I invite you to heart riff too.

For me, it feels like freedom, but I wonder if that's an idealised version of freedom, y'know? I wonder if I really could exist without the need to seek approval in people? When my parents died I got to really practice that. My writing was edgy + powerful, the decisions I made were daring + risky. I did not give a FUCK. People kept dying, two of my aunties, an uncle + cousin in the following 12 months + I cared less + less - not about those that had died but about what people thought of me because I had no one alive to judge me or approve anymore. I really walked the edge.

And while I think I still do, writing books, doing workshops + being seen has meant that some people dig you + they tell you so, and while I try not to attach to that, (I'm a yogi, I'm all about non-attachment. Ahem.) it actually feels really nice when people like what you do, but then when I sit down to write or create, it does mean that sometimes I think, 'what if those people who loved me last week, disagree with what I'm sharing this week + don't dig me anymore?' What then?

I've been thinking it about the book too. I can feel why it's absolutely the next book that had to be written but what if people are like, why is she writing about witches? She talks about wombs + periods? What if people don't take my womb work seriously anymore? What if witches question who I am to write a witch book?

I CRAVE the liberation + freedom of not giving a fuck (and I reckon I spend about 80% of my time in that place) but I'll also hold my hands up + say I still really want to be loved too. I have noticed though, that the more I love my decisions - (I love that I get to write about women's work, because that's what ALL of this is - wombs, witches, heart riffing, truth, ritual + sharing, vulnerability) the less I need others to love them.

How about you? My truth is that I'm still navigating being a woman fully in her power + what that actually means to me, I feel like there's still a long way to go + that I carry the persecution of the women that went before in my blood + bones, yet I see how different is for me as a white woman, compared to my sisters of colour for example - what's your truth?

SHE Reading: Limitless

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Insight + wisdom from SHE through me.

This week's SASSY SHE oracle pull is: NO LIMIT

SHE SAYS: The only thing between you + limitless freedom are the stories you tell yourself. Yep, this is all down to you, ladylove. Of course, society + patriarchy have put us in the shackles, but lady, you have the key. Unearth all the stories you’ve been told about who you should be, how you should be + what you should be. Examine those stories, strip them off one by one – this may get dirty + will definitely get messy - decide what still fits, what you want to keep and what you need to let go of. These stories have shoved down your female-ness. Strangled your voice. They’ve let you allow others to be in control of you, to know better than you. Enough. Enough. Enough. Take a breath + unlock those shackles. Yes, you will become undone. Yes, you will become raw + vulnerable as you shed skin after skin. Yes you will die, but the good news is you will be reborn. This is what a life of no limits is like. An unshackled, unbound, unravelling of you who is able to show up + bring it all. Who is able to be whole. Not perfect. Not together. But whole + complete. Limitless.

Five personal SHE readings become available at every full moon, if you want to read for yourself, you can buy a set of SASSY SHE Oracle Cards HERE

Laying it bare

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  While some people go away for the summer holidays, I'm currently cauldron-stirring + writing my next book, Witch. Can I tell you how weird it is to write a book that's already for sale on Amazon? VERY WEIRD. That's how weird.

Now, I vow to SHE everyday that I'll share my experience of being a woman in real time, not when I have shit figured out, it's what I signed up for, so over the weekend, as I wrote, it had me feeling ALL the personal feels + I want to share.

I'm often portrayed as the 'dark and intense one' by friends + people I work with and I'm so happy to own that, because I AM dark and intense - I'm a witch, I write about subjects that have been placed in the dark + called taboo, I'm a Scorpio, I've got black hair + gypsy eyes, I prefer ocean-deep conversations over shallow + surface level chat, but I heard my heart screaming 'tell them you're funny too, show them how funny you are, woman you're funny!'

Secondly, + I shared this in the coven I'm currently circling with in SHE Power Summer School, I dropped all the fierce self-responsibility. Consciously.

I wrote: I want to experience being the woman who ISN'T dark. I want to be the woman who has it super easy for a while. (I laugh at that now, because seriously, does she ACTUALLY exist?) I want to be the one who has a rich husband that pays for everything while I play, create + go on retreats. I want parents who love and support me (and are alive, that would help.) I want to be the one who success comes easy to, I want to be the one who had 20k followers on Instagram. I want to write about something that's everyone loves + that's easy to package.

Honestly, in that moment, as I was journalling, I wanted to be THAT woman. SO BAD. Because sometimes, being THIS one, in THIS body, experiencing THIS life, is bloody tough.

I wrote + wrote + wrote until I finally felt ready to consciously claim back my power + Take self-responsibility. But before I did, I took a deep breath, laid naked in my garden + gave it all back to SHE. Here you go lady, YOU deal with that. I didn't try + fix it, or try to figure out its meaning, I didn't feel guilt or shame for being someone who should have this all figured out, I just placed my palms flat on the earth and gave it to her. SHE can handle it. Then I took the picture that's above. It's my truth selfie. I then turned on FB + read something that made me feel witnessed and seen and embarrassed + shy in circle - a Wonder Woman had expressed her truth of how she saw me in the world. Usually, rightly or wrongly, I don't allow myself to meet the gratitude or the criticism. But that day, I welcomed the validation. I welcomed being seen. Fully. I felt grateful to be seen in all my messiness + that despite that messiness, grateful that women still show up + want to be in circle with me, to work with me, to share with me.

And it prompted me to want to thank you. For letting me show up in your world each week. For letting me write you love letters, for letting me share my stories, my truth + my offerings. For digging what I share even when I don't come in a glossed up package, even when I don't make sound-bite worthy videos + get fear-y anytime I make them. I'm a woman getting messy in the blood and guts of  this experience, a woman offering herself up to SHE as a vessel + and sharing what I feel and learn as insight, in real time, not waiting 'til I have it all figured out + tied up in a pretty pink bow ready to sell to you as something that can fix you or mend something.

I work with women to take fierce self-responsibility for themselves, to call back their power, to learn ways in which to respond to life and not react to it, and this is how I did it this weekend. I made a conscious decision to let myself feel what needed to be felt - the need to be mothered, to be looked after financially - I let myself be in my shadow + I pulled it all up to the surface. And I saw it + I witnessed it + I didn't try to fix it. I placed my hands on mumma earth + I gave it back to her. SHE can handle it. But guess what SHE is me. I am SHE. SHE can handle it. I can handle it. We are SHE + SHE is WE. We've got this, women.

 

SHE READING: pleasure is your birthright

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Unedited insight + wisdom direct from SHE through me. So the moon is coming into her fullness + today's pull from the SASSY SHE oracle cards is: PLEASURE

SHE SAYS: In order for you to claim your throne as queen (which is absolutely what you are, and your throne is your pelvic bowl, your seat of SHE power) you need to come into full and loving connection with it. So many women are SO disconnected from 'down-there' that they'd rather let someone else touch them or put fingers inside them -doctors/partners/lovers- than touch themselves. Now, pleasure isn't ALL about sex + touching ourselves, but our vulva is so sensitive and receptive and connecting with her means you're able to to truly feel and make decisions from her, and they will be intuitive + potent decisions, I promise. And the best suggestion I have to do this is to claim back your birthright + receive self-nourishing pleasure. When you're able to receive self-love + experience pleasure without thinking it's dirty or wrong, you're able to open yourself up to receive in ALL the ways - physically, emotionally AND spiritually. This may seem wild, but it only seems wild because you've been shamed and conditioned NOT to touch. Yet pleasure, receiving + allowing are natural female states and when women fully embody them, women fully embody their SHE Power. Imagine a world where all women remembered that they were not meant to give, give, give until their well was empty...Where they remembered that they were natural receivers of ecstasy and pleasure...Where there was no guilt or shame about their lady landscape because women owned their thrones, set boundaries and made all their intuitive life decisions from their place of pleasure...That's the world that you're creating when you rub both your clitoris and your third eye simultaneously.

SHE MEDICINE: 🔻 Chocolate - because... 🔻 Aura Soma number 4 to help us pursue a path to inner wisdom 🔻 Snowflake Obsidian + red temple crystals to protect, heal + support

Book your reading or buy your own set of SASSY SHE oracle cards HERE

Crazy times call for furious dancing. Or love making. Or anything that lights you the fuck up.

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So yesterday, after having a little social media break over the weekend, I went onto FB and I got a little bit pissed about being told how to 'think' + 'show up' in response to news/society/politics.So I posted a day 23, slightly ranty pre-menstrual response.

"If I post a picture of a puppy it doesn't mean 'I don't care' + that I'm not doing anything about the issues that are in the news. If I post about politics + news events that I care passionately about/and or cause an emotive response in me, it doesn't mean I can't laugh + smile about the good things in life too. If I choose to pray/meditate/dance to deal with the harshness of life, I can. If I choose to get all angry + activist, I can. If I share memories of Love + happiness, it doesn't mean I don't care about the injustice either. What's with the sudden policing + controlling of people's emotions, spirituality + dealing mechanisms? NOT COOL." Now, I think fundamentally it's the fault of social media itself. Social media is a place where we only share thoughts + opinions in certain amounts of words making full conversations + debates much harder because the nuances of in-person-ness are lost. But honestly, I believe it's up to each individual how we use + negotiate FB. The same ways it's up to the individual on how they navigate life.

For example, I'm fully aware that I'm in a privileged position to be sat in my white skin, in my nice home being able to have an opinion right now. I'm also aware that I'm a woman who has been shamed into not having a voice, and the last thing ANY of us, men or women, needs right now is being told  HOW to show up and then being called out for showing up in the 'wrong' way. I shared a post that Rose Skye wrote in our online SHE Power Temple last week as it provoked a conversation between Rich and I that showed up some truths about myself I didn't entirely like. I didn't say 'think this' or 'let me educate you' or 'this is the RIGHT way' I offered it up simply as a conversation starter. Offering support, guidance, your own thoughts + opinions? Hell yes. We NEED that. More than ever. Telling people what to think + feel + how to act? Not so much.

I'm not 'spiritually bypassing' if I chose love over activism. I'm not being unspiritual if I choose activism over passiveness. I choose love AND activism. I choose to watch trash TV to numb the pain sometimes, while other times I'll take to the street to protest. What's happening in the world right now hurts my heart, I'm sure it's hurting ANYONE with a heart and we're all dealing the best we can, so lets cut each other a little bit of slack as we navigate these crazy times, yeah?

I've been called out when I share pictures of happy memories by people telling me that because of the 'position I'm in' (whatever the fuck THAT means) I should give more of a shit about what's going on in the world. If I DO share about what's going on in the world + my views on it (which I do loudly + often) I get called out for daring to have a voice. I get told I'm white + should be grateful, yet I'm treated differently on a daily basis because I have a womb. I get told to speak out + make my voice heard, yet women that have gone before me have been burned + persecuted for doing exactly that.

It's all a big Kali ma mash up out there right now, and we're all trying to find our way, but as a cyclic woman, there are some days where I want to shout, cry, rage + scream loudly about the injustices of the world (and I do) and there are times when the pain of it all really hurts + my way to deal is prayer + meditation, so I do that too.

Through it all I'm trying to stay rooted in my own truth. I was speaking with my friend Ani yesterday morning + she said all any of us can do is "Check ourselves, see if we're being a div + change/act accordingly....with maximum love and compassion." I'm making it my mantra right now. The world is messy, we're messy + all any of us can really do is show up in our wholeness where we're at right now, and knowing that the SHE scape - our personal landscape at any given moment as a woman - is subject to change. As you learn more, it may change. As you cycle through a different phase of your menstrual cycle/season of nature/life cycle or when you experience something joyful/traumatic or one of the gazillion possible emotions in between, it'll change.

The bottom line is, I WILL fuck up + disappoint people. Guess what? So will you. And it's ALL okay. We've got to make it okay. We've got to make it okay to be this messy + not have any of it figured out. We've got to have total, fierce + deep compassion for each other as we fuck it up, as we struggle to find the right words, inevitably say + do the wrong things + upset each other during these 'interesting times'. Til then, I'm going to dance furiously, (have you read crazy times call for furious dancing? it's SO good.) make love + do all the things that make my heart womb + heart light the fuck up. How 'bout you?

 

SHE READING: Messy-ness, trust + wholeness

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Insight + wisdom direct from SHE through me. Wowzers. The world is crazy right now, isn't it? The uncertainty + fear is causing a lot of people to act from that place - me included - so when I pulled from today's SASSY SHE Oracle Cards I wished for the Peace card, instead I got FIERCE. I then felt called to reach for my medicine woman tarot (I LOVE this deck) and I got COMMAND. Okay, let's do this.

SHE SAYS: Know source, know yourself as source. Make this your mantra, because ultimately, right now it's ALL about trust + wholeness. ALL OF IT. Womenkind have been persecuted, blamed + shamed for trusting themselves + their body wisdom so it makes total sense that so many of us are are afraid to GO THERE. Except that's the very thing we've got to do. And there's a good chance that as you negotiate + navigate it, we might say the wrong thing. You, we, will ALL say the wrong thing. This is what showing up in our wholeness is all about. It's messy. The world is messy. We're all messy. NONE fo this is going to be graceful or 'clean' - it requires you to get down + dirty with the divine, to mud-wrestle, to make a mess and to have deep compassion for yourself and for others as they process it and figure it out too. You WILL change your mind. You will be inconsistent. It's ALL okay. Or at least we have to make it all okay, otherwise nothing can heal, ourselves OR the world.

SHE MEDICINE FOR THE WEEK AHEAD: 🔻bare feet in nature as often as possible. 🔻use obsidian crystal as protection for when people can't deal with your messiness. It's inevitable but know that SHE's got you. 🔻 Palo Santo because smudging is a really good idea right now.

For a SHE Reading or to buy your own set of SASSY SHE oracle cards, click HERE

Injustice, racism + SHE Power

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I am beyond blessed that the nature of the work I do means I get to gather + sit in circle with incredible women. In the SHE Power circle, the online circle that accompanies Love Your Lady Landscape, we're having some big, truthful bloody conversations. Conversations about the righteous anger that's rising from our wombs. About women's bodies, about fairness, about race, about the state of our world.

NEVER has there been a time when we've needed women to trust themselves, trust their bodies + to call in their power more. When we're rooted in our power source, our womb, we can rise.

Rose Skye is in our circle, and this morning after an evening of roaring in circle with her about injustice, racism + bigotry, she shared this powerful + potent offering... When I asked Rose if she'd shared it anywhere so I could share it with you, she said the usual response is someone telling her to 'calm down'. I am SO over our anger, rage + any form of emotion being 'shh-ed', pushed down or silenced. I want to share it because it's already prompted some really fiercely truthful self-observation in me, I hope it's helpful for you too.

"..You've asked what can be done about the state of racism and bigotry right now. I appreciate it; thank you. You wish to want to step up is powerful. It's taken a lot of thought. Thankfully I've got a few processes at my fingertips and was able to get there without wanting to curl up into a ball. Now, I don't have the answers, and I don't have the energy. I can't take on the world, I can just take on the bit of it I live in. And that's something we can all do, I think. We have to stand firm, and that takes courage.

So, first thing I would say is: find your courage and your power. Standing up for yourself or anyone else is hard, especially when you don't know what the repercussions might be.You have to be willing and capable of being slammed down for speaking up. That's frightening, I know. If the only thing you can do is cultivate your courage to say 'no', then by all my various deities, that is good enough.

PoC parents are having The Talk with their kids. We all know what The Talk is: we all have to give The Talk.

My mother had to give me The Talk when I asked her what the n-word meant after coming home from school. I remember the look on her face to this day when she had to answer it. I think I was wearing the same expression when I had to have The Talk with my son. For those who don't know, The Talk is having to explain to your children what racism is, how to react to it, how to react to it safely because the authorities will judge you on whether you do it 'properly', and more recently, how to survive said authorities.

I'd say that everyone, everywhere, needs to have The Talk. If you are white, have The Talk with your children. Have The Talk with your colleagues. Have The Talk amongst each other. Don't ask a PoC to give you a crash course in The Talk. The Talk we have is unfortunately not why The Talk is bullshit - we can't afford that one. But you can. That's The Talk you need to have. Do your research, have The Talk.

There are various movements all over the world you can join if you have the energy, capacity and strength, but - and I'm speaking from my centre here - a movement is only powerful if you actually DO THE WORK. The 'safety pin' movement in the UK was something I side-eyed a lot because it pretty much was just symbolic. A lot of PoC called it out, because while the idea is sound, the practice? Not so much. A safety pin should have meant 'come to me if you are frightened and I will stand with you.' If you decide to wear a safety pin, then I'm asking you - begging you, really - to make it mean that. Make it mean you will call someone out on their bullshit. Make it mean you will not be silent. Make it mean you will offer to walk a frightened woman in a hijab home. Make it mean you will stand up, even though you're one woman and there are five angry dudes standing in front of you. It takes courage, it takes power...but if the whole point of SHE is remembering that, then you've got this.

Check on each other, check in on each other. Make sure people are safe right now, ask what you can do to help. It can be a simple, random act of beauty. All I'm asking is whatever you do, do it out of a sense of giving some moment of beauty to a frightened person right now, NOT to make yourself feel good about 'doing something'. I have friends who are in qui gong classes offering to walk people home if they're afraid of being harassed. I've seen coffee shops offer free coffee to PoC and 'safe space' for someone to duck into is they're afraid. Squads of kids tearing down BNP flyers, offering roses to immigrants. Small acts. Small bits of defiance. They add up. Speak up. Stand out. It matters.

Ok, I now have to have The Talk with the Dutchman - he's normally very supportive but his way of coping is with jokes, and his timing was TERRIBLE this morning. So now, his very much white dude-bro behind is gonna get schooled; as gently as I can because his ignorance is born from just that - ignorance, not wilful denial. He's awesome, this may be our first argument, but the thing I love most about him is his willingness to listen. I love him for it.

I can do that much today. I can do that much.

In peace, in strength. Ache!.."

As always #abloodyconversation - respectful, open + honest - is welcome...

Eve, self-abandonment + feeling it to heal it

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Both my heart + my womb are tender.There's a chance yours might be too, what's going on in the world is pretty full on + gnarly at the moment and if I'm honest, I want to do everything I can to escape from it - I want to eat ALL THE FOOD. I want to watch back to back episodes of The Housewives of...well, anywhere, because it all hurts a bit too much. But I'm trying to stay with it. To feel it. To feel it ALL. And I'm not going to lie, it's a challenge. There's a section in Love Your Lady Landscape called Feel It To Heal It. I re-read it this morning, because feeling was just too bloody painful. It is for most of us. We're taught from an early age that pain is NOT okay, so we've done all we can to distance ourselves from it. Except, for any kind of real healing to happen - for you, me + Mumma Earth - we NEED to feel them. We need to allow the painful feelings to be felt because they hold a LOT of important information for us. Our feelings, so many of which we store in our womb space - are a source of inner guidance and it's our job to become aware, take radical self-responsibility and let the healing commence. Y'see, Eve's banishment from the Garden of Eden - whatever your religion or spiritual belief - has left ladykind with a sense of universal rejection + abandonment - which is why so many of us use self-abandonment as our go-to method of protection from pain.

Right now, despite the high masculine solar energy of summer solstice here in the northern hemisphere, an energy which 'should' be calling me to 'do' and 'create', I'm being called into deep rest. I'm bleeding with the full moon and my bleed is more painful than it's been for years - grrr - so much so, that I've spent the last day in bed. It's not just me that's feeling this way either. The women that are gathering in the SHE Coven, the sacred FB circle of women who have pre-ordered Love Your Lady Landscape (come join us - pre-order your copy of the book by clicking HERE - I cannot get enough of how honest we're all showing up in that space, THIS is the community I've been craving!) they're feeling it too. The trick is to bare witness to it, and despite EVERYTHING your mind will try to suggest, don't abandon yourself.

Feel.

So today, I'm taking prompts from the Maltese Dreamer. I talk about her A LOT in the book, she's this incredible 5,000+ year old statue of a gloriously curvy goddess found in a womb tomb in Malta who is lying on her side in deep rest. There are lots of stories about her, but MY story of this particular goddess is that she's menstruating, and when she menstruates she's able to dream her life into being through deep rest that allows her to receive. We call it Yoga Nidra. Deep meditative sleep. A state of consciousness that allows you to process pain, to understand feelings + work to unravel them all while your body takes deep rest. I talk about Nidra a lot in the book too, because it's such an important tool in my SHE Flow practice bag.

Try it for yourself, I've made a SHE Power Yoga Nidra that you can listen to HERE.

This is work, I'm not pretending for one minute that it's not. Feeling, when all you actually want to do is run/hide/numb/control the pain, is how we've been taught to deal. It's ALL I want to do right now. That's because the patriarchy put all our SHE power tools in the darkness and taught us, rather successfully, to be scared of the dark. Yep, all the parts of being a woman, all the keys that enable us to access our power and feel power-FULL in this lifetime - our menstrual cycle, our pleasure + desires, our innate intuition and ability to feel - have been hidden in the shadows and labelled taboo, so that it's too bloody scary for us to go there, discover and claim them back as their own. Basically, like the goddess, we've been dis-membered. Separated from our body, our ability to feel fully + our intuition. All this crazy shiz that's going on in the world? It's patriarchy getting SERIOUSLY pissed that we're daring to feel again, that more and more of us - men + women - are waking up to the manipulation, that we're daring to ask questions and that women especially, are reconnecting to their body + their womb's wisdom.

Women, when we allow ourselves to feel, we heal.

When we feel, we reconnect + we re-member. With ourselves + with our power. Then? Patriarchy begins to crumble. Slowly. Which means more than ever we have to grow strong roots in order to rise, because I can guarantee it won't go down without a fight, because fighting is all patriarchy really knows how to do. But then, maybe in this lifetime, maybe not, that's not really our concern, we WILL start to heal the entire freakin' planet.

AND...SO...IT...IS...

 

 

SHE READING: Be the change

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unedited insight + wisdom direct from SHE through me. I'll be honest, I was hoping more than anything for today's card to be surrender. I'm day 1 of my menstrual cycle + despite the powerful energy of the summer solstice here in the northern hemisphere teamed with a superpower Full moon in sagg which is the second in a row this year and is really rare, I'd like to just stay under my duvet for the rest of the week, but our pull from the SASSY SHE Oracle cards this week is: TRANSFORM. (Of course it is.)

SHE SAYS: in the next two weeks you'll be preparing for big energy shifts, you've felt them already and it's not been comfortable, so I understand any hesitation or resistance you might have to becoming the change. But the change is what you are being called to become. Don't worry, there'll be time for adjustment, but your job right now is to grow roots. Strong solid roots + then allow the summer sun (metaphorically if you live in the UK) burn away EVERYTHING else. Old beliefs, limitations, anything that's keeping you from growing - let it all burn to ashes. Now is the time to take radical self-responsibility, what isn't serving you? Give it up to the solstice fire so that you can grow, rise + be fully of service to yourself and others from a place of power. But be gentle with yourself, this transformational, alchemical burn up WILL leave you feeling raw, vulnerable + frustrated - don't turn back tho, burn ALL the bridges. Tread new paths, slowly + intentionally.

SHE MEDICINE FOR THE WEEK AHEAD 🔻Obsidian crystal - this a Native American arrowhead gifted to my‪#‎warrior‬ self. Use obsidian for protection and boundary setting. 🔻I am OBSESSED with Root + Flower and ALL their prods, but I'm using this base chakra oil daily and repeating the mantra: 'I am grounded, safe + secure' 🔻 Lavender essential oil on your pulse points will calm your nervous system as you burn up old beliefs + limitations.

To buy a set of your own oracle cards or to get a SHE reading with me, click HERE

SHE, BUSINESS + THE 'BLOODY VAG' BOOK

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So, when you launch a book, there's usually a 'pre-launch campaign', there's a really effective tried + tested format too, but honestly, it's kinda predictable. It doesn't feel that fun or juicy to try + create either, which is why I created the SHE Power temple: Online.I'd just shut the doors on the SHE Power Temple in Malta + was like, I want to do more of THIS. I want to gather women in circle, share stories, and because I know not everyone can make a trip to Malta happen (although if you CAN + you want to, you are so welcome to join me for the next one in October!) I decided to have a three hour session online, in real time, getting real together, sharing techniques + insight from the book, celebrating each other, moving our bodies, curling up in a nidra nest + eating chocolate - obvz. - that just felt SO good to me. And so in what's becoming my only way of showing up in the world, I created it + if you pre-order the book, the book is your ticket to a LIVE 3 hour online SHE Power Temple on Saturday July 9th + don’t worry if you can’t make it live, it WILL be recorded. (In real time will be SO much better though. Just saying.) To pre-order, CLICK HERE

Then, if I'm honest, I wanted a little something for me. I wanted to gather a sisterhood of support because writing + launching a book that was written mainly via SHE + my labia lips is bloody scary and I wanted, actually...I NEEDED a girl gang, a SHE squad who would have my back, who I could show up vulnerable with + who I could share nidras, videos + anything I feel called to create with, so I created an online SHE coven on FB for those that pre-order Love Your Lady Landscape because my favourite part of ANY of my online courses is the magic that happens in the FB circles + covens - just because their online doesn't make them any less potent, that's an actual fact.

And then there was social media. Now, you KNOW I have mad love for Instagram + maybe you know that every monday I do a Moonday SHE Reading over there, but that is the extent of my social media. I don't want to schedule four memes a day in different formats across ALL THE PLATFORMS, that feel lifeless + inauthentic to ME (not saying that's how it is for everyone by the way, if it feels good to you, please go do it, but to me? Not so much.) I don't want to go use Twitter which I don't dig JUST to promote my book, I don't want to try + figure out what on earth I'm meant to do on Snapchat (I've tried, I just don't get it) so instead starting from tomorrow, right through to publication day on July 5th, new moon through to new moon, I'm having a Love Your Lady Landscape palooza (totally a thing) on Instagram + facebook (my social media of choice) where each day I'll share insights from the book (if you have questions that you'd like me to answer or to have a bloody conversation about - hit reply to this email) honestly, I've nothing planned except the hashtag #loveyourladylandscape I'll just follow the flow of the moon, my own menstrual cycle + see what comes through each day because THAT'S what feels juicy to me. (Much to the annoyance of the super awesome social media dude at my publisher who I know would LOVE more than anything for me to have a schedule, sorry Tom!)

Look, it's experimental, it might not work at all, but since conception, Love Your Lady Landscape has demanded to be SHE-led. Despite my best efforts to be organised, which has not happened, write the book I proposed, which has not happened + create some kind of publicity schedule, which has not happened, I guess I should expect nothing less on the run up to publication, right?!

It would be super-easy for me to follow a tried + tested method, but if I did that would be going completely against everythnig I share in the book which is to follow your womb-led instinct, to trust yourself despite how wrong you may be made to feel for doing so. Mainly, by yourself. I've had SERIOUS wobbles. I've had entire conversations with myself - just make a three-part bloody video series, make a set of meditations + an ebook, hire someone to do all your social media, hire someone to do what you're 'supposed' to do, what's 'expected' of you. Instead I had deep chats + hour long text convos with amazing sisters who have been through it + come out the other side, I have Kdot, one of my besties + a social media angel on speed dial because she REALLY gets it (come play in her summer school, she's AMAZING) + I'm sharing it all with you, because you need to know everything that goes on behind the flaps of living a SHE-led life + creating a SHE-led business - THIS is what it looks like. Do you think I WANT you to know I don't have it all figured out? Hell no. The perfectionist in me is going bat-shit crazy over here at the very idea of me being so bloody honest about it all, she doesn't want me to reach out + ask for your help + support, she doesn't want me to ask you what you'd like me to create so that I don't create yet ANOTHER meditation or e-book that you'll download onto your desktop and never open.

But I'm going to though, I'm going to ask you to reply to this email and help + support me without feeling cringe-y or weird. What would you like me to create to support your Love Your Lady Landscape journey? What would feel good + juicy to receive - nidras, how to videos, me singing ALL the lyrics to PJ + Duncan Let's Get Ready to Rumble? (I TOTALLY can.) Hit me up with what you'd love + also I'd LOVE it if you feel called to share any promotion tips/ideas you've seen used that you love + felt good to be on the receiving end of, or ways that you'd like to help promote the book - maybe you'd like to interview me, share posts from the palooza with your network, let's make this whole thing a joint collab.

Let's give the perfectionist a middle finger + show that nothing bad happens when we ask for help, show our vulnerabilty or when we experiment or try something new. Let's also give patriarchy a middle finger by showing it that really pretty amazing shiz happens when women support each other.

I love this book + want you to read it, but I won't create a gnarly sales funnel in order to make you do it. I want to share the experience WITH you, because I spent so long writing this book solo, that now I want to celebrate, play + share in it's magic WITH YOU. Basically, I'm day 15 of my menstrual cycle, I feel like I'm Queen o' Freaking Everything, I feel like ANYTHING is possible + I'm using ALL my ovulation powers of manifestation to call this dream of SHE-led business, support + doing what FEELS good into being.

And so it is. High fives, fist bumps + that dancing lady in the red dress emoticon.

SHE READING: Shake it up + shake it out

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Unedited insight + wisdom from SHE through me. So yesterday was the new moon + shit needs shaking up + out, right?! If you've been feeling super-stuck, in your energy/life/a certain situ, this week is your call to get all Tay-Tay Swift on its ass. Which is why BEAUTY from the SASSY SHE Oracle Cards may feel like a total random card, but actually it makes total sense.

SHE SAYS: When you feel stuck or paralysed by something or someone, listen to your body. Be sensitive to what she needs + requests, and it will respond in the most glorious way. When we're feeling stuck we need to move. Try slow intentional hip circles, this stirs your cauldron, your pelvic bowl, the place where most women store the feelings that keep them stuck - and let what needs to be felt be present + stirred. When we create movement, the stuck-ness lessons + we create space + freedom for beauty to rise. It's pretty fucking special.

SHE MEDICINE for the week ahead: 🔻 Pre-order my new book Love Your Lady Landscape + receive a free pass to my online SHE Power Temple where I'll be sharing LOTS of delicious ways to find love for our bodies + our SHE 'scapes. The circle is already gathering on FB - it's beautiful.

🔻 Palo Santo - because once we've felt, stirred, moved + alchemists the stuckness you need to go ‪#‎smudge‬ yo'self, g-friend.

🔻call on Frieda Khalo as your spirit animal, muse, inspiro, ladylove to show you that when we create space for liberation, beauty will ALWAYS rise. Freedom is love. Viva la Frida.

To buy your own set of SASSY SHE oracle cards or to book a SHE reading, CLICK HERE

Truth, trust + kicking perfectionism in the ovaries

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I'm back after spending THE most incredible week in Malta. Yep, the first SHE Power Temple under that big + beautiful Sagittarius is now over +  I'm feeling blessed.Full of love. Heart-wide-open. Womb full of 5000 years of SHE power.

We shared stories, made magic, unraveled, got messy in our truth and most importantly, these fierce + vulnerable + untamed women under a full moon, dared to call back their power. For themselves, for each other, for you, for me, for every woman that's gone before + for every woman yet to come.

What was 'interesting' was the destruction that came before the creation. Yep, Kali ma was most definitely present in what went down over that weekend. She kicked my perfectionist/the one who wants to be told she's 'good'/the one who needs to be validated hard in the ovaries. Days before I arrived in Malta, I dislocated my knee. I arrived at what was to be our temple space for the weekend + fell through the door, skidded into a wall and broke my finger. I was day 28 of my cycle, the moon was big + full, I felt powerless, I could not pull together a coherent sentence, and all I wanted to do was curl up + have my hair stroked. But I wanted SO much for the women coming to have the most magical experience that I tried to fake it. Despite EVERYTHING I share + teach. I had every session/ritual/ceremony lovingly prepared, yet when it came to greeting the women in circle for our first ceremony together, nothing. No words, no plans, no structure. NOTHING. I'd gone into that time between time - a golden space that occurs between pre-menstruation + 'I'm about to bleed' where shiz gets SERIOUSLY liminal, where you're completely disconnected from everything and everyone. My finger was pounding with pain, my tummy was bloated + felt like I was full-term preggo + I wanted to cry. SHE had forced me to show up to circle broken, literally. I bowed to Akhilanda, the goddess of never not broken, I placed my hands on the earth + asked 'okay, what do you want from me?' and I heard a direct and from-the-gut response - 'Trust + truth. That's all I ever want.' From that moment on, the notes were left untouched + trust + truth became our guides under the full moon. I shared where I was at, I told the circle that I felt scared + that I was trying to be the 'perfect' circle holder + it became the permission slip for us all to 'feel' + 'trust' that we could show up vulnerable + share from our roots. We danced, laughed, sang + cried from THAT place + most importantly, we made magic and called back our power from THAT place too.

Proof if any is ever needed, that we are in a cycle of constant forgetting + remembrance. I teach + share this work, yet the patriarchy has done SUCH a job on us, that I forget too. I fall into the trap of wanting to be liked + validated, of wanting other people to think I have it all figured out when I really freakin' have NO IDEA. But, luckily, since spending serious spiritual hang time with SHE, I've realised that if you're not listening to + trusting your gut, SHE will do what is necessary to bring you to your knees/crack you open so you can keep remembering + receive your SHE medicine.

FYI: That shiz rarely comes sugar-coated. I have the broken finger + dislocated knee to prove it!

It's lifelong work + we're in it together. So let's be each other's guides in this. Let's remind each other that your truth right now + trust in yourself is all that's ever needed to show up.

SHE READING: Shed your skin + bare your soul

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Unedited wisdom + insight from SHE through me. It feels like the BARE card from the SASSY SHE oracle cards has come up so many times this year, but it's for good reason. It's not because you're not doing the work - jeez Louise you're doing the work, right?! - it's just you've got so much freaking shedding + letting go to do (societal shiz, family demands, you know the drill) SHE demands that there's still more to go in order to bare your true nature.

Your true nature is your essence.

Who you are underneath all the labels and demands and titles given to you by others, it's your truth, your soul, your bloody brilliance that shines so brightly, except it's been dulled + sullied + covered in the muck of other people's expectations + beliefs and now you're being called to finally shed it ALL. To stop wearing the mask of people pleaser or saying what you think others want to hear + showing up in your truth. Yes, it'll feel vulnerable, that's the point. Vulnerability + truth is what restores us to our true essence. Over + over again.

If you know someone who needs to read or hear this message, feel free to share it with them or tag them here - the world needs more of shining our bloody brilliance. Fact.

SHE MEDICINE: 🔻volcanic rock - this will stoke the inner fire that will help to shed what's no longer needed. 🔻 Tourmaline to protect you from emotion vamps who try to suck you of your brilliance 🔻 Rhodochrosite unlocks + frees any emotional blockages in the solar plexus chakra helping you to return to wholeness.

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Menstrual Hygiene Day - #abloodyconversation

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Today is Menstrual Hygiene Day, and even though menstruation is one of the most normal things in a woman’s life, it's still a big-ass taboo that negatively affects + impacts far too many girls and women worldwide. They suffer because of society’s messed-up ideas about THEIR menstruation. It's why I wrote Code Red, it's why I talk about it in Love Your Lady Landscape and it's why I won't stop talking about it despite how icked out it continues to make people. Now I don't particularly dig the words 'menstrual' + 'hygiene' together, it conjures up images of blue liquid being used instead of blood to promote 'sanitary protection' (yet more vocab that makes me a whole lot of angry - grrr) + personally, I think the day should be totally re-branded and called ' menstrual health day' but sadly I'm not in charge, and I celebrate the wins for womankind where I can, so a day where we talk about periods is TOTALLY cool with me.

Over on social media, I'm busting myths about menstruation, come + check me out on twitter, Instagram + FB + I'm encouraging YOU to have #abloodyconversation too. If you love the idea but are afraid of sharing it on social media, I get it. Not everyone wants to talk about the fact they bleed, some women are totally icked out by their own period, but unless we talk about it, it'll remain totally okay for girls not to be able to attend school because they're bleeding and the misconceptions, the shaming and the fear of a woman’s monthly cycle will continue to be our 'norm'. You don't need to say you love it and embrace your monthly SHE powers if that's not how it is for you, the bloody conversation is ALL OF IT.

These are some of the responses I got when I asked for a bloody conversation with my SHE squad (the women who let me send them SHE mail each week!)

"...In my twenties I moved to New York inspired by Sex in the City, hip hop and Broadway. I'm that kinda eclectic.  I spent the first month seriously burning the candle at both ends and the middle.  When I am tired and stressed I get horrific period pains. So bad I just need to crawl into a dark hole and loudly moan and thrash about. There were no dark holes available to me on the 50th floor of my  skyscraper office other than under my desk. So under I went. This resulted in my colleagues calling an ambulance and me getting taken in the lift on a stretcher to hospital. All the time I was pulling the mask off my face and trying to explain that I didn't think I had medical insurance and I couldn't afford to pay! The following month I decided not to repeat the 400 dollar ambulance trip and when I felt the pain coming on I headed to the subway. Halfway home I was in so much pain I started to panic and my body seized up. A man who only spoke Spanish helped me off the train only to have the transport police try to arrest him because they thought he was mugging me. Talk about a bloody drama!..."

- L

"...I don't specifically remember my first bleed but I remember being excited to try my pads that I picked out with my mom when my friends menstruated for the first time.  We talked about it and it felt exciting until the cramps set in.  I have always had painful cramps unfortunately.

I remember the first weekend I used a tampon.  My mom bought me a box and talked me through it so that I could still swim on the Girl Scout trip.  Ironically this was a tradition that I carried on for years whenever a Girl Scout wanted to try a tampon on a trip I would talk her through it in the bathroom.  It got to the point where I carried a big bag of feminine supplies in every trip so that if anyone forgot or was surprised they could just borrow my black toiletry bag.  I am realizing now that I was blessed to talk and laugh about menstruation at a young age..."

- M

"...I am frustrated with my cycle. I was going regular for a good 6/7months i knew the exact date but then a couple mobths ago i missed a month then the following month it came at a different date, and then this month I have no idea when its coming. I love getting my period it is usually such a relief for me, I get really uptight and annoyed mega mega easily. I eat and eat and eat usually 2 weeks before, and literally feel as though my body is so stiff and stuck. I did have this all under control well the eating part because I started to notice patterns, and realised my eating habits got worse before my period and because I knew it was that, I could handle it and deal with it. But  my body has gone off path and I feel like I'm back to square 1. I know I'm feeling the way I do just now because I can't figure out where I am in my cycle and its driving me nuts!..."

- T

So dare to have #abloodyconversation today - on your blog, with friends, on social media - share one of the busted menstrual myths that you'll find on my social media feeds with your network + lets start the REDvolution!